The Truth in SL Will Set You Free

So here we are in the glorified fun interactive chat room we call Second Life.  That’s what it is isn’t it?  For all of us non role playing avatars at least I can say that for sure and most of the role playing dudes as well.  It’s a giant fun chat room with loads of stuff to do and explore.

 So I gather most of us are here seeking friendship, love and belonging.  Can I pass on something I learned in SL that may seem a little obvious when dealing with actual ‘chat rooms’ and real life, but a lot of people here in SL will never discover?  To meet like minded souls you must be yourself and present yourself truthfully, honestly, warts and all.

You want someone who loves you for you if you are looking for RL love…don’t you?  If it’s just a SL relationship you are after, say so, even when you risk losing some hot babes along the way, you will eventually find a like minded individual that will meet your criteria and a happy SL union is found.

Yes, what a concept!  I agree it is tempting to exaggerate a little about yourself when you get to talk to the avatar with a drop dead gorgeous RL dude behind it.  White lies are harmless right?  Think it through girlfriend.  ‘The truth will set you free’

So drop dead gorgeous takes your bait and falls head over heels with you in RL, you have hooked him...oh yay, well done you! 

So now he wants to meet you in RL, or wants to webcam together.  Then start the black lies, “the web cam is broken” type lies, the “I’ll be out of town that weekend” kind of lies.  The “I am going to Africa on a medical aid mission” kind of lies.  You are treading water at this stage, you can’t meet him, he isn’t the potential love of your life and you certainly aren’t his, but you want him, and cant tell the truth or he’ll hate you forever. 

You are robbing this unsuspecting person of the potential to meet the real life true love that he is aching foras you continue to hold his attention with your make believe persona.  Did you send him photographs that weren’t of you?  Did you embellish you career from hospital cleaner to Doctor?  Did you tell him you were divorced when you are still married in every way? 

You still have a choice at this late stage.  ‘The truth will set you free’ because even though he may be disappointed and hurt, eventually he will appreciate that you respected him enough to come clean and stop wasting his precious time, his precious feelings and his very precious intimacy and love.  You know just like RL….

It’s just SL, it’s just pixels, and it’s not real? BuLLSHiT! BuLLSHiT! BuLLSHiT!

OK, let’s just say you are so beyond help, a psychopath, with no concept of empathy, only self interest.  You know the jig is nearly up so you need a way out.  I know...lie.  You become deathly ill in Africa and he eventually finds out, through your ‘sister’ who is also in SL, that you have died.  He and your friends in SL go through REAL grief, not pixel grief.  The pain in their hearts is real pain and the emotional scars left are also agonisingly real.

It was great planning on your behalf to have an alt that is you RL sister by the way, that way you narcisistic needs are met as you bathe in the grief of your SL friends in the wake of your passing.  Lovely. 

It just occurred to me you ARE showing your true self aren’t you.  I admit now that I have been barking up the wrong tree all along.  In RL you are a manipulative deceitful narcisistic psychopath aren’t you, and you may be the most perfect illustration of RL=SL I may ever need.

Bless your heart, I totally believe in KHARMA muah